“Mmm…dang! Check her out, man!!” Just one of the many common responses, a guy has to show their interest in a fine girl walking by. There really can’t be anything wrong with that, so girls get off our backs about it. It’s just the way us guys are, there is no harm in it. If anything, just look at it this way, we are giving women an approval rating so that they can feel better about themselves.
Maybe all that is true to a degree. I mean, besides girls allow us to do it, so obviously there can’t be anything wrong with it. But, is it okay still for a so-called Christian man to act this way? In Ephesians 4:22 it says, “Throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception.” That day, that you accepted and asked Christ to come and run your life, you set behind your old ways, and accepted the new. Often we tend to think that the Word of God, is just some book of suggestions from God. But, it’s not, it’s a Holy Book filled will laws and guidelines for how we should live our lives.
In Genesis 2:18, God declares, “It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Too often we have this attitude that, well God created women for me, so I will do as I please. We see them as the ones to just simply meet our immediate needs; whether it’s cleaning, cooking or SEX! But, think of it as Matthew Henry puts it, “If man is the head, she is the crown, a crown to her husband, the crown of the visible creation. The man was dust refined, but the woman was dust double-refined, one removed further from the earth.” Now, if you stop a minute and reread that once more, you will realize God gave you something pure and beautiful. He didn’t give us some scraps, or leftovers. He gave us His best!
Regardless, of what the media is trying to push, and get you to believe. God, Himself has given man to duty to love and protect the purity and being of this precious, beautiful gift, He has given us. You see, it is one thing for just any guy to sexually exploit women, and make them out to be just a sex symbol. But as a Christian man, we have the Word of God which instructs us to protect women from this very thing. Yet, so many of us (including myself at times) continue to ignore this instruction.
Through the praying, studying, and writing of this post, I sought out the thoughts from different women on this topic. As a male, I know this is the one topic that most of us struggle with the most, however I believe it is good for us to see how our actions are affecting women. I must say, it is deeply disheartening and upsetting to hear how something that we do, can have such a lasting, negative impact on a women’s life. One thing, that really struck me is every single lady I talked to, said that the majority of men don’t respect them, and just use them. One girl (who isn’t a Christian), told me she has always been mistreated and used for sex. Then she said she started dating a nice Christian guy, hoping things would be different, only to find herself in that same lost, used up place.
We so quickly will raise up our hands, and declare it loud, “I am a Christian! I am different!” But, are we? Some guys may try to argue the fact that we look lustfully, because they show it. But, you must remember women are attracted to men as well. Think of it this way: If you are somewhere, and a girl walks into the room, with her hair down, a lot of makeup, a mini skirt, and a low cut shirt. But, she also walks in with her friend, who has her hair up, no makeup, jeans, and a sweater. Which one is going to get your attention? You see, often times a women will dress or act improperly so that YOU and I will notice them!
Is it possible for you to look at a woman, and not think a sexual thought? As a Christian, Christ dwells in us, and we are to be Christ-like. So, the next time you walk in a room and see a gorgeous girl, will you begin to fantasize about her in your mind? Or will you see her through the eyes God does? There is nothing wrong with being attracted to a women, it’s a natural thing. But, the sin comes on how we react.
Girls are led to believe that “boys will be boys” from a young age. That statement is 100% true, but should not be true in the life of a godly man. It is time for Christian men to, be just that, a MAN! It’s time to put our old ways behind us, and protect one of the greatest gifts that Christ gave us. Instead of assisting Satan in destroying it. We are not of this world, therefore we need to stop giving into this whole attitude that girls are something that belong in a deli, or a garage. Yet, sadly in many cases we treat the car in the garage with more love and respect, than we do women.
Not tomorrow, not next week, but NOW! Now, this is the time to change, to stand up and protect, provide, comfort, and love women. Not only because it is what they so deeply desire and deserve, but because God demands it from us. It’s time to show the world, exactly what a man is suppose to look like.
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